When setting goals about your health and fitness, writing down, ‘I want to Lose Weight’ isn’t actually going to help you achieve it. Why?….. because your mindset is focused on the wrong outcome.
Let’s break this down into how it works.
Your sub conscious is like a series of programs that are running in the back ground that you are consciously unaware are happening. But what those programs are doing is helping you make decisions about your life in relation to previous experiences you’ve had and how you felt before, during and after those experience.
Goals to Achieve
When you think about what you want to achieve in your life your sub conscious is paying attention to ‘how you feel’ about what you want. It looks at what you’ve felt before, what you are feeling now and helps you to make a decision about how you are going to achieve your goal or whether it’s worth trying to achieve your goal.
Emotional Connection to Words
You have an emotional connection with words. I’m not talking about the small words such as ‘and, to, like, how, it, is’… etc… etc. I’m talking about the larger or should I say more important words like, ‘weight, love, hate, loss, joy, belief, achieve, sacrifice’ etc. To take this further, the language you use is another way your sub conscious checks in with you about how you feel.
Over the course of your life so far, you have progressively attached an emotional value to words which is stored by your sub conscious. It is this emotional value that your sub conscious uses to help you decide how you feel about what you want to achieve. The stronger the emotional connection to a word, the stronger or bigger the impact those words can have in your life.
Let’s start bringing all this together and look at the goal. ‘I want to lose weight’.
Firstly, your sub conscious will disregard the word ‘to’. It’s a small word that will most likely have little to no meaning. So, the goal now becomes ‘I want lose weight’. These four words can then be broken down into the following.
I – Despite being a small word ‘I’ is an exception to the rule because it relates directly to who you are as a person and therefore significant meaning can be attached. For this example, let’s say how you feel about yourself generally is ‘Unhappy’. This means I = Unhappy.
Want – Depending on your life experience you will have emotional connection with things you have previously wanted in life. If over your life you have wanted things but they have never eventuated, then there could quite possibly have a feeling of disappointment. This would mean then that Want = Disappointment.
Lose –The word ‘lose’ can come with quite a strong emotional attachment because for many of us we have all lost something. It could be a person, an animal, a job, a prized possession. The stronger the loss, the strong the emotional attachment. How you have internalised that emotional can often lead to the fear of loss. Therefore potentially Lose = Fear.
Weight = How you have felt about your weight over the years will mean you have built quite a strong emotional connection to it regardless of whether you have been over weight or underweight. For many, feelings of being very self-conscious is quite common. Therefore Weight = Self Conscious.
So when you write down the goal ‘I want to lose weight. Emotionally you are linking the following feelings to your goal – ‘Unhappy, Disappointed, Fear, Self-Conscious’. As a result the goal you have written down is a ‘Painful Goal’. You may recognise it’s a painful goal at the time of writing or you may not, however, painful it will be to you none the less.
How a Human Being will respond.
Humans by nature always want to move away from pain towards pleasure. We are hard wired that way. So when you write down the goal ‘I want to lose weight’ you are creating an emotional pain response that you want to get away from. How you choose to get away from that pain is where many people struggle.
The Friction of Emotional Pain Vs Physical Pain
Through the knowledge you’ve gain over the years, you will have most likely learnt that fitness training is one of the best ways to lose weight. What you may not have factored into the equation is the ‘physical pain’ you will have to undertake to lose the weight you want and move yourself away from the emotional pain you feel about your weight loss goal. This is where many people become unstuck.
As you begin your journey into fitness training, you will go through a stage of physical exhaustion and soreness. The stage you are going through quite often causes you to reconsider your weight loss goal because what you are doing is swapping your emotional pain for physical pain. The more you try to push through the stronger the friction will become and this here where most people give up.
Changing the goal, changes the emotional pain value which lowers the friction.
This is the key to achieving success with your health and fitness. It starts by writing a goal that you will attach more positive emotions to which will fuel your desire to achieve your goal. What you are looking for are words that inspire you, lift you up, focus your mind in the direction you want to go, make you feel positive, help you believe you can succeed.
As an example I would rewrite the goal in the following way.
Goal: Create the staying power to achieve gym training 3 days per week.
Create – Is a word that means you are going to build something. In this case you are building a healthier you. It’s a word that can being about the sense of success and opportunity which is positive.
Staying – This word indicated a sense of ‘not giving up’. An emotional word for commitment.
Power – this is a strong emotional word that you can use to your advantage. I will say this word can be both positive and negative as in some may see ‘power’ as a negative human trait. So if this word doesn’t suit you then find another word that does bring about a personal feeling of strength.
Achieve – this a positive word that is a precursor to success.
Gym – You are anchoring in your mind where you will make your success happen.
3 Day per Week – Defining how you are going to achieve your goal.
What writing a goal this way does?
When you choose the words that lower your emotional pain to the goal, you are increasing your personal determination to achieve, this then reduces the friction with the physical pain you will experience in your training sessions. The better you become are at writing your health and fitness goals the more you can turn the friction into determination to achieve and increase your chance of success.